Experiencing God: at Home

Week 2

This study has given me the chance to talk to my mom more about her faith and how she raised my brother and I.  She was quick to point out that I only have babies and toddlers I have never had to try and teach a teenager. I am no expert on kids even let alone teens!! She told me a story about a time that she was trying to reinforce a lesson with my brother and he rolled his eyes and said, “I’m not a baby mom. Don’t talk to me like I am. I read the bible for myself.” I cannot express how relieved this was my brother and NOT me! I do remember being disrespectful to my mom, I even remember her lecturing to me and thinking, “mom I’m not a child please don’t use that tone. Ugh Don’t say potty!!”

I’m not a parent to teens I have very little experience with teens, give me a two year old! My mom asked me what I was going to do when my sweet baby boys become young men. I don’t want to go there because my boys will never grow up. They will always want mommy snuggles and to wrestle Mich on the living room floor right? I know in my heart that quite simply my boys will grow up to be men and it is our job to make sure they are well equipped men.  The last day of the at home study addressed teens this is what Blackabys had to say, in part, regarding teens

“I (Richard) met a couple who was extremely concerned about their teenage daughter. This couple adopted her when they were middle- aged. She had been a sweet girl growing up, never giving them any trouble. But then she became a teenager.  Suddenly she wanted a cell phone like her friends. She wanted fashionable clothes.  Her parents felt she was wasting money and being influenced by her peers, so they refused. This led to angry shouting matches. The frustrated parents asked me what they should do to straighten out their wayward daughter.

I said it sounded like she had grown up to be a normal teenager! She still attended church, had not rejected any Christian values, and asked for these things rather than sneaking around to get them. I suggested that, as mature Christians in the relationship, they didn’t need to angrily shout at their daughter. After all, if her view of Christianity were being molded by what she saw in her parents, they needed to represent Christ well.

I urged them to ask God to help them know what mattered and what did not. I also encouraged them to let Christ shine through them at all times to their impressionable daughter. They could grow as parents, if the were willing to allow the Holy Spirit to guide them in this process.” (Experiencing God at Home: a study for parents Pg 40).

Discussion questions

  1. Do you have family devotion time?
  2. How do you encourage kids of all ages to pursue the Lord?
  3. What is the most dangerous influence your children are facing?
  4. Why do you think that we miss what God is doing in the life of our family/ children?

Homework questions

  1. List your children by name,
    1. What do you sense God doing in each of their lives?
    2. What are some of their strengths and weaknesses?
    3. What are some of the greatest influences on your child?
  2. Think about everything your kids do, now why do they do it? Example: soccer or band
  3. How do you know when God is speaking and not your own will?
  4. Have you ever imposed your will over Gods in regards to your children?
  5. In regards to teenagers are you still treating your young adult like a preschooler? What are some parenting areas which are “out-of-date?”
  6. Often we see only the negative traits in people, including our children. Take a moment and think of your worst traits. How are you going to over come those and be a better parent?